“Choose to be optimistic, it feels better.”- Dalai Lama
Create Some Positive Mantras
While many of us feel that our happiness – or lack thereof – is determined by external factors, we are frequently the ones who are holding us back. Many of us go about our days convincing ourselves that we’re “not good enough,” “not bright enough,” or “not attractive enough,” even if we’re not conscious of it.
You must change this in order to begin thinking more optimistically. Try to catch yourself thinking negative ideas and replace them with optimistic messages. Make a list of these optimistic mantras and repeat them every day.
Concentrate on Your Accomplishments
When it comes to other people’s accomplishments and successes, most of us are pleased to acknowledge them; nevertheless, when it comes to our own, we typically downplay or disregard them totally. You must remind yourself of what you have – and can – do on a daily basis to begin thinking more favorably about yourself. Stop listening to your inner critic, think about your past achievements, and start appreciating your accomplishments and what you have to offer.
Seek Out a Role Model
Finding a positive role model might help you become a more optimistic person. Consider the most unflappable, upbeat individual you can think of, whether it’s a colleague, close friend, or even a celebrity. Experiment for the next few weeks by putting yourself in their shoes. Think to yourself, “What would (insert name of chosen optimist) do?” if negativity begins to seep in, or you find yourself in a difficult position. After you’ve answered honestly, try to follow suit.
Concentrate on the Positive
It’s crucial to remember that it’s our interpretation and reaction to events that makes us unhappy, and while you can’t always control events, you can change your response. When confronted with an unfavorable scenario, attempt to reframe it by concentrating on the positives or what you can learn from it.
Perhaps you’ve gained inner strength and resilience, or you’ve learned something about yourself by sharing your sadness with a buddy. Instead of focusing on what you’ve lost, try to focus on what you’ve learned and gained from your experience.
Stop Trying to Predict the Future
When things go wrong in life, optimists prefer to see each incidence as a one-time occurrence, but pessimists search for patterns of bad luck and believe that “if it happened once, it’ll happen again.” However, it is critical not to attempt to forecast the future based on past events. Remember that just because a plan or a relationship fails doesn’t imply you’re a failure, and just because something disappointing has happened before (or will happen again) doesn’t indicate it will happen again.
Surround Yourself with Positive People
Spending time around with negative people who always see the downside of everything is a certain method to make you feel gloomy as well. You need to surround yourself with positive people who can help you realize the good in situations and in life in general to stay optimistic. This is true for other forms of influence in your life, such as music, books, and movies – surround yourself with positive influences and see the positive impact on your mood.
Maintain a Gratitude Journal
When something terrible occurs, it is impossible for us to ignore it. If your alarm clock doesn’t go off or your car won’t start, you’ll be in a bad mood for the rest of the day. How frequently, on the other hand, do you take the time to reflect on all the times your alarm clock went off or your car started?
Make a conscious effort to start reflecting on all the things that go right and that you have to be grateful for by maintaining a gratitude notebook each morning or night, recording all the things for which you are grateful that day.
Defeat your Negative Ideas
Our negative ideas are frequently fueled by our own anxieties, uncertainties, and lack of self-esteem. You must continually challenge your negative thoughts to help you overcome them. Put down your feelings the next time you start to feel down, then write down your arguments for and against these views.
What proof do you have that these thoughts are correct? What evidence do you have that they aren’t? You may even try acting in the opposite direction of how you feel to see what occurs. It’s possible that your pessimistic predictions will turn out to be correct.
Instead of Focusing on the Problem, Concentrate on the Solution.
Optimists look for solutions, while pessimists focus on problems. While it may be easy to focus on your difficulties or frustrations, keep in mind that doing so will not help you improve your circumstances. The situation may not feel good, and it may not appear fair, but it is what it is, whether you like it or not. Rather than ruminating on what may have been, let go of regrets and negative ideas and get proactive in planning your next steps.
Optimism isn’t something that comes naturally to everyone, and changing your perspective may take some effort. In the meanwhile, try putting the action ahead of the emotion and feigning a more upbeat attitude. According to studies, going through the motions can fool your mind into thinking you’re happier. Instead of following your instincts, try smiling and laughing more and speaking in a more upbeat tone. Acting in the manner in which you wish to feel will assist you in being an optimist.
Don’t Dwell on the Past
What is gone is gone, and the most important thing is how you deal with the aftermath. It’s pointless to assign blame, either to yourself or to others. You have the ability to alter a situation and move forward. With the advantage of hindsight, it’s so simple to say, “I should have done things differently.” If horrible things have happened, though, see tomorrow for what it is: a new day in which good things can happen if you allow them to.