“It is very rare or almost impossible that an event can be negative from all points of view.”-The Dalai Lama
A cynical person might look at a rose and be appalled at the thorns, but a positive person might delight in the view that thorns have roses. Which perspective is correct? If you think the thorns overshadow the beauty of roses, then it is safe to say that you are a cynic. However, if you believe that the thorns are lucky to have roses, then you are an optimist.
But sometimes, the events in your life may not be as clear-cut as the difference between roses and thorns. Since the world is not black and white, you have to consider the shades of gray that paint it. Don’t jump to conclusions before you fully consider every viewpoint.
Have a 360-degree vision
You will face a lot of seemingly unpleasant situations in your life. Whenever such things happen to you, try to assess it from a 360-degree view, leaving no blind spots. If you solely view it from a negative angle, you will miss the good things present. You’re wrong if you think that the events in your life are all leading downwards.
To change the view, you have to change the angle of your view. If you’re looking at life from tinted glasses, everything will entirely seem dark to you. You have to take off your shades to see the view as it is. Don’t miss the vibrant colors around you. Even if a tiny positive opening is visible, focus on it. It could be the catalyst to change your life for the better.
Cleanse your view
There are times when smoke on a clear day clouds your vision. The smoke takes all your attention, and you are too distracted to focus on the sky. Similarly, an unhappy incident might lead you to forget about all the happy days in your life. Your vision remains fixed on the smoke.
Well, if the smoke bothers you so much, you have to find the source of fire and put it out. And you can enjoy the view again. So, identify the causes of troubling events and try your hardest to find a solution for it. Sure, it is not as easy as it sounds, and it will take a tremendous effort on your side. But it is better to live with a clear vision than a clouded one. The choice is yours
The feel-good decision
Two thoughts that fight to rule over your mind are positive and negative. On a good day, you are an optimist, and on a bad day, you are a pessimist. So, on which day do you feel better and happier? Think carefully and answer.
You will find that the more optimistic you are, the more cheerful you will feel. Pessimism will drag you into a deeper hole with no way out. So, weigh your options and choose one. You will have to make a decision before the hole gets too deep. But here is a little tip; you will feel happy with happy thoughts.