“Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.” -The Dalai Lama
Relationships are so common and yet so valuable for us. And if you are in one right at this very moment, only you know how it feels to be in a healthy and happy relationship.
Of course, there are times when you struggle to get along with your significant other. The highs and lows of the relationship may tire you out. The euphoric moments followed by downward spirals may seem too unstable to hold on to. But you should know that there is a perfect balance to strike, and it is well within your reach.
The Fine Line
When you start dating someone you love, you want to spend most of your time, if not all, with them. Being with your partner feels right and every minute you are alone feels like a wasted time. While it is fine and even natural to feel that way, there is a fine line between loving and needing someone.
Now, the best relationship for you would be where you love someone rather than needing them all the time. But if you think you need them more than you love them, you have to walk a fine line between the two. When you are too needy for someone you love, you lose your individuality and things might become too intense for your partner. None of which are good for either of you.
So, take a step back and have a closer look at your relationship. If you are asking for too much, its time to slow down.
Be In love
At first glance, you might confuse love and neediness with each other. But you should know the difference and they are easy to spot. When you love someone, you find the space to grow and become a better person. But that doesn’t happen with neediness. How would you feel if someone depends too much on you for their happiness and needs you for every little thing?
Surely, you will end up feeling trapped and responsible for things out of your control. Even though love is unconditional, it doesn’t mean you or anyone has to go through that.
You can love someone and still find the time to be your own person instead of needing them every second. You just have to remember to be supportive. Spend time with each other without compromising your space. If your relationship shares these qualities, then without a doubt, your relationship will thrive and stand the test of time.
Strengthen The Love
Now you know why love matters so much more than anything else in a relationship. No matter how much time passes, it is the one holding everything together. And you should keep it in mind when you go through rough patches. You just have to let the love in your relationship age like wine so that with every year, it gets better and stronger.